Monday, September 11, 2017

Can't We All Just Get Along?

September 10th, 2017   “Can’t We All Just Get Along?”    Rev. Heather Jepsen
Matthew 18:15-20 with Psalm 149
          After weeks on end of the stories of Jacob in the book of Genesis, this morning’s reading from Matthew feels like a breath of fresh air.  Ahhh . . . here is our old friend Jesus, offering us lessons on how to be the people of God.  Like falling into bed each night, or meeting an old friend for coffee, this return to the gospels feels like a familiar comfort to me.
          We are kind of jumping into the middle of the conversation here, so it helps to look back a few verses so we can get some context.  Jesus is speaking to his disciples, and the paragraph for this morning is part of a longer speech in response to the question, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?”
          Folks are asking about who is the best among them and Jesus reminds them that the more important issue is how everyone gets along together.  It is not about ranks, he seems to say, rather it is about keeping the flock together.  He talks about being humble in leadership, about protecting the weak ones within our midst, and about searching for that one lost sheep.  And finally then he comes to today’s section about conflict in the church.
          Now we all know how much we wish the church was a perfect place, but we also know that no gathering of broken human beings could ever be perfect.  There is just as much conflict in the church as anywhere else in our world, and it certainly has always been that way.  Why else would we find Jesus himself discussing church conflict? 
          The question is, “how do we correct one among us who has gone astray?”  This has been interesting to watch lately in the big Christian church community with Houston pastor Joel Osteen.  I am sure most of you are familiar with his flawless smile and perfectly coifed hair on the cover of his many books.  I know quite a few folks watch him at home on Sunday mornings when they can’t make it out to church, and he is certainly entertaining.  Well, Joel got into trouble a few weeks ago when his mega church neglected to open its doors as a shelter right away after hurricane Harvey.  Small churches around the area were helping out, but the mega church in the basketball stadium wasn’t. 
          You can hardly blame Pastor Osteen for this mistake since helping the poor and destitute isn’t the gospel he preaches, and that’s not the kind of church he runs.  Joel preaches prosperity gospel which encourages everyone to help themselves to the blessings of God in their life.  While his is a church of small groups and bible studies, it is not a place of food banks and soup kitchens.  And it is most definitely not a shelter.
          Anyway, the point is, the greater church community corrected Joel on his understanding of the gospel and the role of church through the voice of social media.  Chastised on twitter and Facebook, with folks posting photos of a church that clearly was untouched by the floods, he finally changed his mind.  While Joel and I probably still disagree on what the gospel is about, in the grand scheme of things, I think the greater Christian community did a pretty good job of bringing him back into the fold.
          So how do we live out this reconciliation process in the local church?  Well, Jesus seems to be offering a step by step outline in the reading for today.  He starts off by telling us that if someone in the church sins against us, hurts us, does us some injustice or harm, that it is our responsibility to rectify the situation.  The burden is on the person who has been wronged, which is difficult for us.  Jesus tells us to approach the individual who harmed us one on one and see if we can rectify the situation together.  If that doesn’t work, then we are told to “phone a friend” and bring along someone else from the church to help hear the case and find a solution.  Only after we make every attempt at reconciliation are we told to allow that person to leave the faith community.
          Jesus paints a pleasant picture here but I am not sure I have seen it really work out that often.  Most often I have seen churches that look more like the people in Psalm 149.  It’s all singing and music and praise God, for about 6 verses until all of a sudden people have two-edged swords in their hands and they are executing vengeance on the nations and punishing the peoples!  Churches get in knock-down drag-out fights just like everywhere else.  Personally, I have often been hurt by people in churches who disagreed with me about something and I have witnessed folks do it to each other over and over again.  People get their feelings hurt in a disagreement, come out swinging, and before you know it everyone is headed to the church down the street instead.
          Now this congregation in particular is one of the sweetest, most agreeable congregations I have ever seen.  There is something in the air here that makes everyone really value the peace of this particular community.  That is why you have such long pastorates; this congregation is really a gem.  You might not follow Jesus’ exact prescription for conflict management, but you do seem to value reconciliation more than punishment.  And it makes you a pleasure to work with and this calling a true joy, so thank you.
          Even this wonderful church can benefit from Jesus’ message which is that the community itself should work together for its preservation.  If we come at every conflict with a two-edged sword in our hand like the folks in Psalm 149 then we risk cutting the community into pieces.  I have seen it many times in church communities.  But, if we approach conflict with patience and grace, then we are able to hold things together and to keep the community as whole as possible.
          Jesus says to treat the one who disagrees with us, as if they were a Gentile or a tax collector.  At first this seems like a harsh punishment, reducing the one with whom we have conflict to the status of an outsider.  But, if we step back and imagine how Jesus himself treats Gentiles and tax collectors then we find something else.  For these are just the people Jesus spends time with.   Tax collectors and sinners, Gentiles and outcasts, are just the folks that Jesus is so often engaging in ministry with.  So too, if we are forced to say goodbye to friends in the church over conflict, we are called, like Jesus to continue to minister to them in the community.  Once again we find reconciliation as the goal, rather than punishment.
          Today we are gathering around the communion table, and this is the central place for reconciliation within the Christian community.  When it comes to conflict and committing injustices, we must admit that we all stand as sinners before our God.  No one in the church is perfect.  Part of coming to the table is confessing our imperfections, confessing the wrongs we have committed, and admitting our sins before God and the community as a whole.  That is why that Prayer of Confession is so important to our worship service.  We do it at the start of each Sunday, so we can once again share peace as a community confessed and forgiven, a community of reconciliation.
          When we gather at the communion table we gather as a forgiven people.  We know that we have all sinned, and that we all stand equally in need of God’s grace.  We eat of one bread and drink of one cup, reminding ourselves of our one-ness in the Lord.  This is a table of equals, a table of community, a table of peace, and a table of reconciliation.  This meal is the living embodiment of the forgiveness that God extends to us and that we in turn strive to extend to one another.
          As we return to the words of Jesus this week, we return to a reminder of who we are as the church community.  Our goal is not to have all the right answers or to be a perfect uniform place.  Rather, our goal is to try to hold together this band of broken people for as long as we can.  When we hurt one another, which we are bound to do, we are called to work together for reconciliation and forgiveness. 
          Jesus tells us that this should be a community of peace and love, not a place where we are cutting out those who have sinned.  Jesus reminds us that it is only when we are all gathered together, those who are right and those who have been wrong, that we will find Jesus among us.  That is what makes a community of faith.  May we continue to be such a community.  Amen.   

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